choosing adoption over abortion is a viable pregnancy alternative

Why You Should Choose Adoption Over Abortion

Finding out you are unexpectantly pregnant can cause a flood of emotions. Some women are scared or anxious, while others are excited and nervous. Whatever your feelings, they are perfectly OK. That includes being confused about the best way to handle a pregnancy. For women who are not yet ready for the lifelong commitment of child-rearing, abortion is a pregnancy option they may consider. There are alternatives to abortion if you find yourself pregnant and unable to raise a child. Choosing adoption over abortion is another possibility.

What are the benefits of adoption?

Only you can decide which pregnancy option is right for you. There are benefits to adoption that are not possible with the abortion alternative. Some adoptions are “open,” which means you can be a part of your child’s life after birth. This is one of the biggest benefits of choosing adoption for your unexpected pregnancy. You can watch your child grow while forming a relationship with the adoptive family. It allows you a window into your child’s life while relying on others who are committed to raising him or her.

There also are several benefits to your child, including:

  • Financial stability. Adoption in the United States is not cheap. Families who commit to the process are financially stable, which means your child will have greater opportunities in life.
  • Increased opportunity. Most adoptive parents are college-educated, which means they support advanced learning opportunities for their children.
Choosing adoption over abortion means you may have a chance to see your baby grow up with a loving family.

When to consider adoption over abortion

How do you know when to choose adoption over abortion? There are many reasons why women and their partners opt for adoption. One of the biggest contributing factors is the unpreparedness (or unwillingness) to become parents. Parenting is hard. Not everyone is suited to the task or feels ready to take on the responsibility. If this is how you feel, adoption is an alternative to parenthood.

Some women are lacking financial stability or the help of a committed partner. They know they cannot do it alone, and so they may consider adoption as a substitute to raising their baby alone.

Lacking a strong support system also can influence women toward adoption. This is especially true for women who do not have the help or cooperation of the baby’s father.

Sometimes women know they are unable to raise their child, but also know they are unwilling to have an abortion. For these women, adoption is ideal.

Types of adoption

If you are considering adoption, there are four different types of adoption plans. Birth mothers should make sure they fully understand how adoption works before agreeing to place their baby with an adoption agency. The staff at Care Net is trained to help you make sense of your choices and guide you to reputable adoption agencies should you choose this route for your pregnancy.

Here are the four types of adoption most agencies offer:

  • Open adoptions, which we previously discussed, allow the adoptive family and birth mother to have an ongoing relationship. The extent and frequency of the relationship are determined by the adoptive family and agreed upon at the time adoption paperwork is signed by both parties. Open adoptions are the best option for the child and Care Net encourages you to consider this if it is an option with the adoption agency you choose.
  • Semi-open adoptions are not available through every agency. When they are, they are an ideal way for the birth mother to meet the adoptive family and get to know them before the baby is born. With this option, ongoing contact with the adoptive family is not as common as it is with open adoptions.
  • Semi-closed adoptions allow birth mothers to choose their baby’s adoptive parents. Adoption agencies provide the birth mother with profiles of prospective adoptive families and leave the final decision on whom to pick up to her. There is no contact between the birth mother and adoptive family.
  • Closed adoptions provide confidentiality to birth mothers and adoptive families. In this scenario, adoption agencies serve as an intermediary between the two parties. The agency chooses the adoptive family based on its criteria. There is no contact between the birth mother and adoptive family.

Next steps in choosing adoption over abortion

If adoption is a pregnancy option you wish to consider, Care Net can help guide you through the process. We offer pre-adoption and post-adoption education services for birth mothers. Our supports are designed to help women:

  • Navigate through the adoption process.
  • Access a support advocate.
  • Fully explore their thoughts and feelings about their pregnancy and pregnancy options.

Women who need ongoing support can find it with us. Contact us to learn more about adoption as a pregnancy option, or to receive assistance with the adoption process.

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Seeking help for grief after abortion

Choosing to have an abortion is never an easy decision. Some women opt for an abortion because they are dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and feel it is the best option. How you decide to handle your pregnancy is deeply personal. Ideally, it is best to get the support you need from the moment you find out you are pregnant. Pregnancy care centers like Care Net can help you explore your options, including abortion, adoption, and parenthood.  Whatever decision you make, having ongoing support can help you deal with any feelings you may have before, during, or after. 

Abortion is an option that approximately 18 percent of pregnant women choose each year in the United States. Sometimes women experience extreme grief after an abortion. Even when they know what to expect and choose this pregnancy option, it can be difficult to unpack their emotions afterward. Grief is not always immediate, either. Sometimes it takes years for a woman to recognize the emotional trauma having an abortion can cause. 

How to recognize the signs of after-abortion grief

Pregnancy loss – whether planned or unplanned – causes an interruption in your hormonal cycle. Most women are familiar with the kind of mood disturbances that can occur when their hormones fluctuate, especially when it involves estrogen. Pregnancy hormones can decline quickly after an abortion, hurling you into an emotional freefall. It can take anywhere between 16 days and 2 months for hCG levels (the pregnancy hormone) to decline. 

So, what does all this mean? Well, it means it is somewhat normal to be moody after an abortion until your hormone levels return to normal. Any feelings of relief you experience immediately after your choice can quickly be replaced by discouraging ones or self-doubt. Some of the negative feelings you might experience after an abortion include:

  • Anger
  • Depression
  • Guilt
  • Loss of self-esteem
  • Remorse or regret
  • Shame

Women who choose abortions also may have relationship issues moving forward and feel isolated or lonely. Again, while these feelings are common and even normal, it does not mean you have to suffer through them alone. 

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When to seek help for your after-abortion grief

There is never a wrong time to seek help and support after an abortion. Even if you think you are handling it well, you may be surprised to learn that some of your underlying feelings of anxiety and stress are caused by the major life decision you just made. Talking with others who understand how you feel can be a tremendous source of relief. 

While it is normal to feel remorse and grief after having an abortion, it does not mean all feelings after an abortion should be ignored. If you find yourself unable to cope with the loss or experiencing thoughts of suicide, you must seek help immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a valuable resource. A national network of crisis centers, the lifeline provides 24/7 free and confidential support for people who are in distress. You can receive information about local care and suicide prevention resources. If you are experiencing suicidal feelings after an abortion, please do not wait. Call the lifeline toll-free at 800-273-8255. 

What to expect from after-abortion care programs

Sometimes talking with others who know what you are going through can help with any feelings of anxiety or other distress you are having after an abortion. After-abortion care programs provide the support needed and can help you connect with other women who get it because they have been through it themselves. 

Support groups are just one resource you can expect from a quality after-abortion care program. Our caring staff at Care Net also have access to trauma resources to help with your emotional and physical reactions to pregnancy termination that require more assistance than a support group offers. We pride ourselves on offering a confidential, non-judgmental environment where you can feel safe talking with someone one-on-one about your after-abortion feelings. We can help you find a trauma resource that addresses your individual needs, providing the help you need to work through your feelings. 

Seeking help before you make a decision

Seeking help before you decide what to do about your pregnancy can ensure you make the right choice. Sometimes women choose abortion because they do not realize there are alternatives. Care Net Pregnancy Care Centers provide information about all your pregnancy options

Our team of advocates and licensed medical professionals make sure you have access to medically sound and accurate resources that include abortion, adoption, and parenting. All care you receive – including pregnancy testing and limited ultrasounds – is free and confidential. 

You do not have to go through this alone. Contact us today to schedule your free appointment to discuss your pregnancy options. We have four convenient locations in Albuquerque, Los Lunas, Moriarty, and Rio Rancho. 

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Should I Have an Abortion? Getting the Support You Need to Help You Decide

Finding out you are pregnant can be scary, especially if the pregnancy was unplanned. Maybe you are not ready to be a parent for financial or other reasons. Maybe the baby’s father is not someone you can depend on to help you through your pregnancy and in raising your child. There are many reasons women choose to have an abortion. Having access to the most accurate and complete information about abortion and all your pregnancy options is the best way to approach the decision.

Types of abortion

There are two types of abortion. The kind you have depends on how far along you are in your pregnancy when you make the decision to have an abortion.

Chemical abortions are commonly used for women who are less than 10 weeks pregnant. Two separate medications are used in a chemical abortion, which requires a two-step process to complete. In the first step, women are administered the oral drug called Mifeprex. This drug works by blocking progesterone, a hormone that is necessary for an embryo to survive. Within 48 hours, the woman will take a second medication orally, called Mifepristone. Following the second dose, women can expect to have heavy bleeding and cramping as the contents of their uterus are expelled. Depending on how far along you are, what is expelled can include a fertilized egg or a developing embryo.

Surgical abortions are performed in women who are more than 10 weeks pregnant. The procedure involves opening the cervix and suctioning out the uterus with special medical tools. Depending on the trimester of the pregnancy, additional medical instruments may be required to physically remove the fetus from the womb. There are several levels and procedures involved with surgical abortions. If you decide abortion is the right choice for you, receiving additional information and pre-and post-abortion support is recommended.

Make sure you follow this abortion safety checklist to help protect your health before committing to a termination procedure.

Abortion patient rights

If you are exploring the option of abortion, make sure any pre-abortion counseling or support you receive provides information about your rights. The first and most important is that no one has a right to force you to have an abortion. Not your parents (if you are a minor) and not your partner. It is illegal in Albuquerque to force someone to have an abortion. If this is happening to you, reach out to someone who can help.

Other abortion patient rights include:

  • You have the right to a licensed physician. In New Mexico, only licensed physicians can perform surgical abortions.
  • You have the right to know the physician’s history, including whether they have ever been disciplined by the state medical board or lost their license to practice for any reason.
  • You have a right to know the physician’s malpractice insurance status. Never allow a physician without malpractice insurance coverage to perform your abortion.
  • You have a right to quality care, including before, during, and after your abortion. If there are complications, your physician is required to transfer you to the nearest emergency room for treatment.
  • You do not have to sign away your rights. If a physician or abortion clinic asks you to sign forms saying you will not hold them liable for any serious injuries (or death) from the procedure, refuse to sign them. No reputable doctor or clinic would ever ask you to sign away your rights.

You also have the right to change your mind. Even if you are already prepped and ready for the procedure, it is OK to say you no longer want an abortion. There is no shame in changing your mind at the last minute. It can and does happen.

What are the risks of having an abortion?

Roughly 620,000 legal abortions are performed in the U.S. every year, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. That does not mean there are no risks to having the procedure. A first-trimester abortion is considered minor surgery and the risks to the mother are relatively low. The risk of complications increases the further along the mother is in her pregnancy. Here are some of the most common risks associated with an abortion.

  • Anesthesia-related complications happen in about 1 of every 5,000 abortions and can include pain, nausea, and anaphylaxis.
  • Blood clots in the uterus and severe cramping happen in roughly 1 percent of all abortions. Suction curettage is required to remove the clotting.
  • Cut or torn cervix happens in fewer than 1 percent of women having an abortion. When it does happen, it occurs when the uterus is stretched to allow surgical instruments access.
  • Hemorrhaging will require repeat suction, medication, and sometimes surgery to repair. While some bleeding after an abortion is normal, heavy bleeding is not and should be reported to a healthcare provider immediately.
  • Perforation of the uterine wall is another possibility. Medical instruments used during an abortion can pierce the uterus in 1 out of every 500 abortions. If the perforation is severe, it can cause infection or heavy bleeding that will require immediate follow-up care.

Where to get abortion support in Albuquerque

Care Net Pregnancy Centers are here for you as you make important decisions about your pregnancy. This is a no-judgment zone. We can help you through every step of your journey. We do not perform abortions at our pregnancy centers. If you choose an abortion, we can offer pre-abortion educational resources and post-abortion support. Contact us today to get the help you need.

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