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3 Reasons to Get Free Pregnancy Testing

If you think you might be pregnant, you’re probably wondering about the next steps. Even if you haven’t yet missed a period, Care Net Pregnancy Centers of Albuquerque can validate your pregnancy status with our free pregnancy testing service.

With four convenient locations in and around Albuquerque, we make it easy to book an appointment to get tested. Walk-ins also are welcome at any of our sites, including our medical mobile unit.

How can you tell if you’re pregnant?

There are many signs that can point to pregnancy. Although women can experience different symptoms of pregnancy, some early warning signs are common. If you’re having any of the following symptoms, it’s worth exploring whether you’re pregnant.

  • A missed period can be one of the first indicators to alert you to a possible pregnancy.
  • Frequent urination happens in the early stages of pregnancy as your body ramps up production of the pregnancy hormones progesterone and human chorionic gonadotropin.
  • Fatigue can signal your body’s hormonal changes to support an early pregnancy.
  • Nausea and vomiting can happen anytime during your pregnancy but are most likely during the first trimester.
  • Tender breasts are another sign your hormones are fluctuating in early pregnancy.

There are some other less common symptoms that you might experience. Women unfamiliar with these as signs of pregnancy can overlook them.

  • Bloating.
  • Changes in mood.
  • Changes in the skin.
  • Food cravings.
  • Headaches and dizziness.
  • Light bleeding, spotting, or period-like cramping.
  • Metallic taste.

What are 3 reasons to get free pregnancy testing?

The symptoms of pregnancy can be linked to other illnesses. It’s important to confirm your intuition that you’re pregnant. If you discover you’re not pregnant after free pregnancy testing with Care Net, then you should schedule a follow-up appointment with your primary care doctor to explore other reasons for your condition.

Once pregnancy is confirmed, you’ll need to make an appointment with your doctor so you can get started taking prenatal vitamins and following other recommended regimens for a healthy pregnancy. 

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Confirming your home pregnancy test results is one of the many reasons why you should consider free pregnancy testing with Care Net.

Confirm your home test results

The first reason to get free pregnancy testing is to confirm you are, indeed, pregnant. While home pregnancy tests have come a long way and can be mostly accurate, they still don’t guarantee 100 percent accurate results.

Some home pregnancy tests differ in their ability to detect pregnancy in women who have recently missed a period. Other factors also can cause a false-negative or false-positive result.

False-positive results happen if you had a recent pregnancy loss or were taking a fertility drug containing HCG. They can also be caused by taking a home pregnancy test too early, testing with diluted urine, or not waiting the full period before reading the pregnancy test results.

An ectopic pregnancy, menopause, and ovary issues can produce incorrect pregnancy test results when testing at home. Care Net’s free pregnancy testing process uses hospital-grade kits to provide accurate results.

Explore your pregnancy options

Once your pregnancy is confirmed with a free pregnancy test, you can begin to explore your pregnancy options. Care Net’s knowledgeable staff can provide information about all your pregnancy options, including:

You can trust us to give you accurate details about each of your pregnancy options. While we do not refer or perform abortions, we do refer for adoption services, see our community referrals page for programs that can further assist you.

Provide proof of pregnancy

Whichever pregnancy option you choose, you must first have confirmation that you’re pregnant. It’s the first step toward getting pregnancy care from a medical professional who can guide you through the process associated with your pregnancy decision.

If you choose to work with an adoption agency, one of the primary requirements before they begin the placement process is to confirm your pregnancy. In addition to free pregnancy testing, adoption agencies might also request a free limited pregnancy ultrasound which can be done free of charge at one of our four locations.

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Adoption is one of the pregnancy options you can choose once you confirm your pregnancy with free pregnancy testing.

What are my pregnancy options?

Sometimes a pregnancy confirmation is a joyous occasion – an awaited result of a planned pregnancy – with the soon-to-be parents anxious to raise their child. However, this is not always the case. A pregnancy confirmation might leave you surprised, worried, or wondering what to do next.

An adoption is a beautiful option. You can give others the opportunity to become parents when they haven’t been able to conceive on their own. Care Net can help you explore adoption, giving you the tools, resources, and guidance needed.

If you decide to explore parenting, we have pregnancy and parenting education resources that can help you prepare. Our parenting education classes and support groups make sure you’re up to the task of providing a healthy and safe environment for your baby.

Sometimes expectant parents decide abortion is the best choice for their situation. Care Net doesn’t provide or refer for abortion services. Our caring staff makes sure you have the most accurate and medically-sound information about abortion.

Where can you get free pregnancy testing?

Care Net is a safe place for women to confirm their pregnancies and explore their pregnancy options. We can provide free pregnancy testing and guidance in choosing the best pregnancy option for your situation.

Contact us today to begin your journey.

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Alternatives to Abortion Clinics in New Mexico

Finding out you’re pregnant can be scary, especially if the pregnancy is unplanned. Abortion clinics in New Mexico are among the first places some women go when faced with this kind of situation. The most recent figures for New Mexico reveal that 4,620 abortions were performed in a year in the state. Pregnant women who choose abortion clinics in New Mexico may be feeling scared and alone and think they have no other options. There are alternatives to abortion clinics in New Mexico to help you sort through your pregnancy options. Care Net Pregnancy Centers of Albuquerque is one of the places you can turn when you need extra support.

What is Care Net?

Care Net Pregnancy Centers of Albuquerque offers free pregnancy testing, free limited pregnancy ultrasounds, and free STD testing. These are all important things to consider if you think you might be pregnant. Our caring and supportive staff helps you figure out whether you are pregnant, if you may have any STDs that could affect a healthy pregnancy, and reviews options for handling your pregnancy if it was unplanned.

Our free resources are designed to help you navigate an unexpected pregnancy. We make sure you are educated about all options, including abortion, adoption, and parenting. Care Net Pregnancy Centers of Albuquerque doesn’t perform or refer for abortions, but we do arm women with accurate information to help them feel confident in their choice.

Care Net has four locations, plus a medical mobile unit, to make receiving care convenient. Contact any of our offices to schedule an appointment or walk right in to get the help you need.

Adoption and parenting are alternatives to abortion clinics in New Mexico.

Pregnancy options to avoid abortion clinics in New Mexico

Abortion may be a consideration for some pregnant women, which is why our staff provides accurate information about this pregnancy option. However, we also encourage women to explore alternatives that abortion clinics in New Mexico may not discuss.

Adoption agencies vs. abortion clinics in New Mexico

Adoption can be a viable alternative to visiting an abortion clinic in New Mexico. Even if you decide you are not ready to become a parent, you may be uncomfortable having an abortion. That is just one of many reasons to consider meeting with adoption agencies to place your baby with a loving family.

Most adoption agencies provide birth mothers with the financial and medical resources they need to have a healthy pregnancy. Birth mothers can choose which kind of adoption they prefer:

  • Open adoptions allow the birth mother and adoptive family to meet and have an ongoing relationship.
  • Semi-open adoptions allow for the birth mother and adoptive family to meet but not maintain ongoing contact.
  • Semi-closed adoptions give birth mothers the ability to choose their baby’s adoptive parents. There is no contact between the birth mother and adoptive family.
  • Closed adoptions protect the privacy of the birth mother and adoptive family and there is no contact between them.

Parenting as a choice

Some women who previously thought they weren’t prepared to become parents change their minds after meeting with our staff. If you are on the fence about whether to keep your baby, we can help connect you with community resources to support you in your journey toward parenthood. This includes material assistance, financial support, job assistance, medical assistance, and other essential living needs to ensure you and your baby are healthy. Care Net Pregnancy Centers of Albuquerque also provides pregnancy and parenting education resources and support groups.

If you get a positive home pregnancy test, having the pregnancy confirmed with free pregnancy testing at Care Net is the next step.

Free services for pregnant women

If you decide to explore alternatives to abortion clinics in New Mexico, Care Net Pregnancy Centers of Albuquerque can get you started on the path toward a healthy pregnancy. Making sure you are disease-free is one of the first steps you should take if you plan to place your baby with a loving family through adoption or raise them yourself.

Free testing for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and sexually transmitted infections (STIs) is a must if you plan to carry your pregnancy to term. STDs and STIs can cause serious health complications for you and your baby if left undetected and untreated.

Women are more likely than men to experience long-term health consequences after contracting an STD or an STI. Some STDs can damage the reproductive system and cause birth defects. Some of the most common STDs/STIs include:

  • Chlamydia
  • Genital Herpes
  • Gonorrhea
  • Hepatitis B
  • HIV/AIDS
  • Human Papilloma Virus (HPV)
  • Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID)
  • Syphilis

STD/STI prevention and treatment during pregnancy

If you discover you have an STD or STI while pregnancy, Care Net Pregnancy Centers of Albuquerque can help. It is important to remember that most STDs/STIs are treatable, especially when detected early. Some STDs and STIs do not cause symptoms, so you should be tested even if you feel fine. You can get peace of mind about your health by requesting free STD/STI testing at one of our convenient locations. While we provide limited treatment options for some STDs or STIs, we can also refer you to a healthcare professional who can determine the most effective course of action.

Some women and their partners struggle with the decision to have an abortion and require after-abortion care.

After-abortion care for women and their partners

Women who choose to visit an abortion clinic in New Mexico to have an abortion may struggle with their decision later. They also may have complications that require medical intervention. Understanding your physical and emotional reactions to abortion is a critical part of the recovery process.

Care Net Pregnancy Care Centers of Albuquerque offer after-abortion care services to women and their partners. We offer a confidential, non-judgmental environment where you can talk one-on-one with someone about your abortion experience. Call 505-880-8373 to discuss your needs with a caring member of our staff.

Alternatives to abortion clinics in New Mexico

If you are unsure of your options to an abortion clinic in New Mexico, contact Care Net Pregnancy Care Centers of Albuquerque today to schedule an appointment with our knowledgeable and supportive staff members. We provide education and facts about all your options and never judge you for your choice. Everyone has different life circumstances that guide their decisions about an unexpected pregnancy. We’re here for you, no matter what you choose.

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How to Soothe Your Fussy Newborn

Bringing your newborn baby home from the hospital can be a bit intimidating, especially for first-time parents. Safely transporting your little one home in their car seat is the least of your worries. Once you have your tiny bundle of joy at home, you must attend to their every need. Many first-time parents wonder if they are caring for their babies the right way. It is perfectly normal to have some fears about feeding too much (or not enough) and keeping your baby in fresh, clean diapers.

While it can be unnerving to hear, sometimes babies fuss and there is not much you can do about it. Staying calm is important since babies respond to our emotions. If we become upset, chances are that baby will mimic our behavior. Even when you do everything right, babies sometimes become fussy. Since they cannot tell us what is wrong, it is up to us to decipher their cries and meet their needs. Here are some of the most common reasons why babies cry and what you can do in each situation to soothe them.

Hunger

Newborn babies have three primary jobs: eat, sleep, and poop. For their first four to six weeks of life, babies eat every two to three hours. Breastfed babies may eat more frequently than their formula-fed counterparts. When babies are having a growth spurt, they may engage in cluster feeding, which means they can eat every hour on the hour.

Babies give tell-tale signs that their bellies are empty. Bringing their hands close to their mouths, rooting around looking for mom’s breast, and lip smacking are all the ways in which your little one lets you know they need to eat something and soon. Your baby eventually will get on a regular schedule, so predicting feeding times is easier.

Gas

Babies gulp a lot when they are eating. With each gasp, they suck in air that builds up in their tummies. Before you know it, your baby has a tummy ache from gas buildup. Sometimes it is difficult to tell the difference between a hungry baby and a gassy baby. When seeking comfort from a gas-filled belly, some breastfed babies will root around for mom’s breast to self-soothe. Eating will only make their tummy pains worse. The best way to prevent a gassy baby is to burp your baby after every feeding. Hold your baby in an upright position with their head above your shoulder, then use gentle pats on the back to help them relieve themselves of trapped air bubbles in their tummies. If chronic gas becomes an issue, talk to your pediatrician about using Mylicon drops to give your baby relief.

Dirty diapers are one of the most common reasons a baby fusses. Babies can urinate once an hour and have a bowel movement four to five times daily.

Dirty Diaper

Diapers are a staple for your baby until he or she is old enough to potty train. Most newborns need a diaper change every two to three hours. Babies can urinate every hour or two and have between two and five bowel movements each day. Never leave your baby in a poopy diaper. Doing so can cause skin irritation that makes your baby uncomfortable. When your baby’s bottom is sore, it can make them inconsolable. Be sure to use fragrance-free baby wipes and apply rash cream after every diaper change to prevent problems before they start.

Overstimulated

Babies can become overstimulated quickly. Lights, sounds, and constant activity around them can overwhelm newborns. If you sense your baby is becoming overstimulated, take him or her to a quiet place to cuddle quietly. Swaddling your baby snugly and allowing them to self-soothe with a pacifier or their thumb can help them calm down sooner.

Tired

Until they are about three months old, babies will sleep between 14 and 17 hours a day. They usually break down their daily sleep schedules into naps of two to four hours each. Like feeding, you eventually will be able to predict when your baby is ready for a rest. Overtired babies cry. A lot. Try to spare yourself and your baby from a tired meltdown by watching for signs of sleepiness that include rubbing their eyes, pulling at their ears, and closing their fists. If you miss the warning signs and end up with an overtired baby who is fussing, swaddle them and play some calming sounds from a white noise machine to help them de-escalate and fall asleep.

Colic

If your newborn engages in frequent, prolonged crying fits, he or she may be suffering from colic. Parents can become quickly frustrated with a colicky baby because no amount of soothing helps. Colic peaks around six weeks of age and start to decrease in frequency around four months of age. It happens most frequently during the overnight hours. If you suspect your baby suffers from colic, talk with your pediatrician for steps you can take to help lessen the severity and duration of your baby’s colicky episodes.

Becoming a confident parent

Raising a child is one of the most challenging things you will ever do. Care Net is here to help by giving you the resources you need to feel confident in your parenting abilities. We offer pregnancy and parenting education classes that help expectant mothers and their partners know what to expect during pregnancy and after birth. Taking one of our classes can help empower new parents. Contact us today to explore our parenting class options or to sign up.

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Baby Essentials 101: What Baby Needs at Home

Bringing your newborn baby home from the hospital is exciting and scary all at the same time. Next to discovering you were pregnant, safely transporting your little one from the hospital to his or her new home is a major life event. New parents have a lot of anxiety about bringing their babies home for the first time. Many “what ifs” go through their minds as they worry whether they are prepared to care for this fragile human being without the 24-hour-assistance they received from nurses and doctors at the hospital. Getting your baby home from the hospital is not as scary as you may think with a little advanced planning and the right equipment for the job. Here are some of the baby essentials you will need.

Baby essential #1: A Welcome Home Outfit

Choosing the outfit your little one will wear home for this momentous occasion is one of the least stressful parts of planning. Sometimes new moms pack the outfit long before the baby arrives, placing it in an overnight bag next to her own clothes for the hospital. Others wait and have their partners or family members choose an outfit and bring it to the hospital later. Whichever you choose, it is important to not overdress the baby for the trip home.

A good rule to follow is to dress your baby as you would dress yourself. For instance, if you bring your little one home on a hot summer day, putting a knitted cap on his or her head will likely cause discomfort. In warm weather, a onesie and light cotton pants are appropriate. If you bring your baby home during colder months, dress him or her in footie pajamas and a hat, and cover with a warm blanket.

Baby essential #2: A Proper Child Safety Seat

Even more important than an appropriate outfit for your little one is a proper child safety seat. It is never safe to transport your baby in a vehicle without a car seat. New Mexico law requires all children up to age 7 ride in a child safety seat. For newborns, you must use an infant-only seat that is rear-facing. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends infants and toddlers ride rear-facing until age 2. Never place an infant car seat in the front seat of your vehicle, even when rear-facing. Most vehicles have passenger-side airbags that can seriously injury your baby during a crash.

Parents who need assistance purchasing a car seat have options. If you are enrolled in a government program like Medicaid, SNAP, TANF, or WIC, you are eligible to receive a free car seat. You also can reach out to the New Mexico Child Safety Seat Distribution Program for help with a car seat. The program not only provides free car seats to families but also teaches them how to safely install them in vehicles.

Baby essential #3: An appropriate baby bed

One of the safest places for your newborn to sleep is in your room, but not in bed with you. Co-sleeping is dangerous for newborns. Tired parents easily can roll over onto their babies and suffocate them. Whether you choose a crib or a bassinet, make sure it includes a soft mattress and is free from bedding and toys that can cause suffocation. If you buy a used crib or bassinet, check to ensure it was not recalled for safety or other issues.

Baby essential #4: Diapers and diapering supplies

Newborns basically have three jobs: eat, sleep, and poop. New parents can find themselves going through a lot of diapers, wipes, and other diapering supplies during the first months of their babies’ lives. Since your newborn baby’s weight can fluctuate from one day to the next, you may want to keep newborn and size-one disposable diapers on hand. Other diapering necessities include diaper wipes and baby ointment or cream to prevent diaper rash. Some parents also prefer cornstarch powder, but it is optional.  

Baby essential #5: Clothing and blankets

Babies go through a lot of clothes because they spit up and have diaper blowouts regularly. Make sure you have several outfits, bibs, and blankets on hand to quickly change out when these accidents happen. Some other recommendations include:

  • Nightgowns for use until the umbilical cord falls off to prevent rubbing.
  • Short- and long-sleeved onesies.
  • One-piece sleepers with zippers.
  • Scratch mittens to keep baby from scratching his or her face.
  • Receiving blankets.

Baby essential #6: Bathing supplies

Baby bathtubs are not necessary for giving baby a bath, but most parents find them convenient. You also should have baby washcloths, hooded towels, and baby-safe cleansing products. Baby shampoo and lotion are gentle enough to get baby clean while protecting his or her delicate skin.

Baby essential #7: Medical care products

It is scary to think you may need medical care products for your little one, but parents must be prepared just in case. Here are the things you should include in your infant medical care product kit:

  • Baby scissors or nail clippers for trimming nails.
  • Bulb syringe to suction mucous out from the nose if baby becomes congested.
  • Eyedropper or syringe for administering medication like anti-gas drops or acetaminophen.
  • Thermometer for checking temperature.

Enjoying your new baby

Bringing your baby home from the hospital should be a memorable occasion. When you plan for that special day by including these seven baby essentials, you will have everything you need to keep baby comfortable, happy, and safe.

Need help finding resources for your new parenting adventure? Care Net Pregnancy Center can help. Contact us today to speak with a caring member of our staff who is happy to assist.

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How to Find Affordable Childcare Services

Finding affordable childcare services often is a deciding factor in whether a woman keeps her baby. On average, parents spend $750 per child per month for childcare, according to the Economic Policy Institute. Costs can vary by state, but childcare easily is the biggest expense most families face. The ever-increasing costs of childcare can be especially daunting for single mothers, who already may struggle to make ends meet with one income. Dual-income households also require the support of reliable childcare services.

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Why does childcare cost so much?

Blaming the cost of childcare on staff wages is not logical since most daycare workers make about $12 per hour or less in the U.S. Some childcare centers offer benefits to their employees. Childcare centers that are federally funded like Head Start, or that are affiliated with larger organizations (churches, universities), are the most likely to offer benefits like healthcare and paid time off.

The more likely culprit for higher childcare costs is the number of state and federal regulations to which the industry is subjected. For instance, some states require low caretaker-to-child ratios, which means childcare facilities must hire more staff to meet those mandates. High turnover rates among staff also drive up costs since employers must not only pay to conduct a job search but for any training new employees need during the onboarding process.

Tips for lowering childcare costs

One of the best things you can do soon after you find out you are pregnant is to start exploring childcare options. Starting early means you have time to secure an affordable and reliable option before others are in the game.

Here are some other things you can do to lower your childcare costs:

  • Set a budget. Once you know your budget, you can decide whether in-home daycare centers, part-time sitters, or a nanny share would work best for your situation.
  • Talk to your employer. Some employers offer a Dependent Care Account (DCA). A type of Flexible Spending Account, it allows you to set aside up to $5,000 tax-free each year to pay for childcare services. There is a downside to a DCA. Any amount left over at the end of the fiscal year is forfeited. This means you must budget carefully to make sure you spend every cent in the account, so you are not losing income. You must keep receipts and other accounting records and submit them to the DCA for reimbursement.
  • Use your childcare tax credit. If you itemize your taxes, you can claim up to $3,000 per child, per tax year for all childcare-related expenses. There is a $6,000 annual cap per family. While it is possible to use a DCA and childcare tax credits, any DCA money is applied to the tax cap first.
  • Explore non-profit options. Nonprofit organizations like the YMCA and local churches may offer affordable childcare alternatives in your community. Some of these organizations, like the YMCA, base your childcare tuition on your income. They can afford to do this because they may receive state or federal funding to help operate their childcare center, which allows them to offset costs.

Community referrals for childcare services

The costs associated with daycare should never be the reason a mother chooses to keep her baby. At Care Net, we believe in providing ongoing support to families who choose life. While we do not offer childcare services through our organization, our team is skilled in helping you to locate affordable and reliable childcare options. Need assistance paying for childcare? We can help with that, too. Care Net has an available list of funding resources to which we can refer our clients. Contact us today to schedule your free consultation. 

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Should you take a parenting education class?

Taking a parenting education class is one of the best ways to prepare for raising a child. A parenting education program can help new parents gain valuable child-rearing skills and become more confident in their ability to start a family. Whether your pregnancy is unexpected, or you and your partner have been trying to conceive, taking a free pregnancy education class at Care Net can help you prepare for your baby’s arrival. When parents have the tools and support needed to grow their parenting skills, their children reap the rewards.

If you and your partner are still on the fence about enrolling in a parental education program, take a closer look at the benefits.

Parenting education helps you master the basics

Basic childcare is a concern for many first-time parents. When you take a parenting course at Care Net, we cover everything from feeding schedules to health issues. You also learn how to determine your parenting style and craft a parenting strategy that focuses on your parenting personality. Care Net recognizes that children have different needs depending on their age. Our free parenting classes cover every stage in your child’s life. By the time you “graduate” from our classes, we make sure you have the essential tips needed to shape your parenting skills and abilities.

Parenting education instills confidence

Becoming a parent is one of the most exciting – and terrifying – things that can happen to you. If this is your first child, you probably have a lot of questions. Should you use cloth or disposable diapers? How often do you need to feed the baby? How much sleep does your baby need? A parenting education program addresses these and many other parenting-related concerns.  Parenting is equal parts knowledge and courage. Even when you know what to do, you still may hesitate. Gaining confidence in your ability to care for the needs of that tiny person and help them thrive is one of the top priorities for prenatal education providers.

Parenting education teaches parent-child engagement

One of the most pressing questions many parents have is how to connect with their children. When you have a newborn, engagement looks much different than when your child becomes a toddler and eventually a teenager. Parental involvement is one of the most important factors in the success of a child as he or she grows. Not only academically, but socially and emotionally. Care Net’s free parenting education program teaches parents what to expect at every stage of their child’s development. We offer practical strategies for meeting their basic needs, plus how to meaningfully engage with your child on all levels.

Parenting education provides a support network

This is one of the biggest benefits of participating in one of our education classes. Parenting is hard, whether you are brand new to it or are on your third child. Meeting other parents who are struggling with the same questions and concerns is comforting. It also is one of the best ways to build a network of support. This is especially critical for single moms, who may not have family or friends they can rely on for assistance once the baby arrives.

What to expect from parenting education classes

Care Net’s free parenting education program is comprehensive. Women and their partners (or a supportive family member) learn:

  • How to meet basic needs such as food, shelter, and protection.
  • How to provide emotional support to help children develop critical life skills.
  • How to ensure physical safety for your child.
  • How to build social skills to help your child communicate successfully.

How to sign up for a class

Signing up for a parenting education program is easy. Contact us today to get started on your parenting journey.

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Just for Men: 5 Ways to Support Your Partner’s Pregnancy

Most men understand that when it comes to an unplanned pregnancy, the decision about how it is handled ultimately is up to their partners. Once a missed period happens, a whirlwind of emotions can overtake both you and your partner. Just because the final decision about whether an abortion, adoption, or parenthood is up to the woman, that does not mean men cannot be involved in the process. 

Most women value – welcome, even – input from their partners. Keep in mind that input does not equal overbearing demands or threats hurled at your partner. Those kinds of behaviors will alienate you and your partner and are not healthy emotionally for either of you. How you choose to respond, and the actions you take after finding out about the pregnancy, can help influence your partner’s decision. 

Once you confirm the pregnancy, here are a few things men can do to support their partners’ pregnancy decisions. 

#1 – Educate Yourself About Pregnancy Options

There are many options for dealing with an unplanned pregnancy. One of the most important steps you can take together is to educate yourselves on all pregnancy options available. Care Net is your premier abortion clinic alternative in Albuquerque. Our caring and supportive staff will present all information about pregnancy options to you and your partner as part of the free pregnancy help services that we offer all clients. Information about abortion, adoption, and parenthood is discussed. No matter which route you choose, Care Net provides ongoing support. 

#2 – Practice Active Listening

Active listening is a technique that requires carefully listening to spoken words while observing non-verbal cues. From the moment your partner tells you she may be (or confirmed she is) pregnant, you must put on your “listening ears” if you want to be viewed as a beacon of support. Ask her about her thoughts and feelings. Is she excited about being pregnant, or scared and uncertain? Does she have any initial thoughts about what she wants to do? Let her know that no matter how she is feeling, it is OK to express those thoughts and feelings to you. Make sure she feels like she is in a safe space for sharing. 

#3 – Share Your Thoughts and Feelings

Once your partner has had a chance to express how she feels, it is your turn to be brutally honest. Keep in mind it is OK to not be excited about a pregnancy. It also is OK to be totally confused about how you are feeling. There are no wrong feelings about pregnancy. There are only wrong ways to express them. If you are feeling negative about the pregnancy, make sure you express your feelings in a constructive way. Lead with “I” statements so your partner does not feel personally attacked. For instance, you could say something like “When you told me you were pregnant, I felt nervous because I am not sure I am mature enough to be a father.”  Not only is this being honest, but it also places responsibility for your feelings right where they belong – on you. 

#4 – Show Your Support

From the minute your partner tells you she is pregnant to her final decision about the pregnancy, show your support. This is one of the most important things you can do. Even if you are on opposite ends of the spectrum about how best to deal with the pregnancy, your chances of getting through it in a way that preserves your relationship are by showing your support. Let her know you care about her. During difficult times, Do not pressure your partner about the pregnancy or her choices. It is definitely not OK to “check out” on her, either. Explore your options together and find the help you need to sort through the situation. Giving her the support she needs – including exploring pregnancy options – can make your relationship stronger. 

#5 – Respect Her Decision

This is the hard part, guys. When exploring her pregnancy options, your partner could make a decision that makes you unhappy. The best thing you can do in this situation is to respect her decision. We know this is a difficult ask. Men who need extra support at this time can reach out to Care Net for help. We offer a caring environment for discussing your feelings, including support groups where you can share your thoughts with other men. 

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Top 7 Tips for First-Time Moms

Becoming a mother for the first time is an amazing experience. Your new baby will bring you more joy than you can possibly imagine. Holding your little one for the very first time is a feeling you will never forget.

We would be lying if we said first-time motherhood was not also a tad bit anxiety-inducing. Moms worry about all sorts of things before – and after – their precious babes come into this world. Some of the most common fears include not bonding with your baby, an inability to breastfeed, or accidentally hurting him or her.

Worrying is perfectly normal. You know what is not typical? Expecting you will be a perfect mom right out of the gate. The truth is, no mom ever is on her game 100 percent. There is no such thing as the perfect mom. Whether she has one child or five, motherhood is full of surprises and every mom makes mistakes.

While you still have time to plan, here are some helpful tips to soothe those first-time mom jitters.

Tip #1: Pick and choose

One thing that is certain when you are pregnant is you will receive a ton of advice from well-meaning people. They will share their secrets of great parenting. Some will be more insistent than others about what you should and should not do once your little one arrives. The truth is what works for one mom is not necessarily going to give you the same results. Take for example the age-old advice to “nap while your baby is napping.” While that sounds great in theory, some moms simply may not need to nap when their baby is sleeping. It is perfectly OK to choose which advice works best for you and ignore the rest. Every baby is different, and every mom is unique, too.

Tip #2: Lose the germ obsession

Do not get us wrong. We are not suggesting that there are not steps you should take to keep your baby healthy. Obsessing over germs is not the best approach. It is the quickest way to drive yourself mad. Keeping your baby away from people who are feeling under the weather is the best approach. You also can ask visitors to kindly wash their hands before holding your baby and to avoid getting in their little faces. Babies are irresistible, but it is best to ask others to keep their lips to themselves to help prevent the spread of disease. Remember to be smart about protecting your baby’s health without going overboard.

Tip #3: Do not sweat the bad days

Tending to a newborn is can be challenging at times. It is important to remember you are not a bad mom. Sure, you may have a bad day here or there, but one bad day does not make you a bad mother. Not every day as a mom will be filled with endless joy. Babies and children get sick. Sometimes they refuse to eat healthy food. There will be times when you are exhausted and longing for a little time for yourself. Sometimes you will make the wrong decision when caring for your child. All of this is normal. When you have one of those days, do not sweat it. Own it. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that tomorrow is another day.

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Tip #4: Share the work

If your partner is part of your pregnancy and child-raising journey, make sure to include them. New moms can be a bit fanatical about worrying that no one else but them can take care of the baby. While it may feel that way, we promise it is not true. It is just your anxiety playing tricks on you. Handing over the responsibility to your partner provides new moms with a chance to tend to their own needs. Yes, you will still have your own needs outside of caring for your baby, and that is perfectly acceptable. Take a nap, soak in the tub, or watch your favorite show while your partner spends quality time with the baby.

Tip #5: Find your tribe

Yes, your partner should be your first line of defense when you need help. If your partner is not a part of your parenting journey, it is time to find your tribe. This is the group of go-to people you can count on when you need them most. They know when to step up to the plate (and when to keep their unsolicited advice to themselves).

Tip #6: Leave the mess

You know who has a perfect home that always looks immaculate? No one, that’s who. When you become a parent, your house becomes a lot messier. It is just a fact of life. The sooner you accept it, the more at peace you will be with it. Even if you have piles of laundry in places they should not be, and last night’s dinner dishes are still in the sink, it is A-OK. What matters most is you and your baby are happy and healthy. Take a deep breath and give yourself permission to leave the mess.

Tip #7: Take time for yourself

Postpartum depression (PPD) affects up to 1 in 7 women. Some of the warning signs of PPD include a loss of pleasure or interest in things you previously enjoyed and eating more or less than usual. New mothers with PPD also may experience racing, scary thoughts. While it is normal to have some anxiety over becoming a new mom, if you are focused on your fears to the point it is interfering with your ability to parent, it is time to reach out for help. Even for women who are not experiencing PPD, it is easy to become overwhelmed when you are a first-time mom. That is why it is important to take time for yourself each day to unwind. If you are worried or anxious, if you are struggling emotionally or physically, then reach out to a trusted friend and speak with your healthcare provider immediately.

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